21/08/2016

ANALOGUE | july/august

three different rolls, many different places, lots of friends, tons of memories.
two cameras actually – RIP to my beloved old [mju:].

it was a strange summer holiday.
can't believe it's almost over.

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Unité d'Habitation, a block of flats designed by Le Corbusier
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w/ mum at Pokrzep Się in Katowice
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Powell at OFF Festival | Viviana Druga's performance at Vagina's Apologies at Urban Spree
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Kamixlo at Ohm
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T and G at a verni whose only highlight were the popsicles
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pink kink
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Corbusier building | romantic dinner w/ my boys
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Benjamin Franklin campus
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Hotel Rügen in Sassnitz
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Benjamin Franklin campus
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view from Nationalpark Jasmund
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Nationalpark Jasmund
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Olympia Stadion from 1936 | cute little house in Sassnitz
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Nationalpark Jasmund
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Benjamin Franklin campus
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radioactive blackberries

15/08/2016

SEX ED | the real sex positivity

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photo by Miruna Sorescu, Kotryna Abaravičiūtė and me for our 'Pornification' project

hookup culture, one night stands, friends with benefits, Tinder, Grindr,...; all these terms are quite strongly embedded in our modern culture. they are part of the so-called 'sexual liberation' of today. while i think that it's great that we have (somehow) managed to move away from stigmatising sex and promiscuity, i would like to talk about the harms this 'liberation' can do.

let me make it clear straight from the beginning – i do not want to criticise promiscuity, not at all. it's each individual's own decision whether/how/with who they want to engage in a sexual, um, whatever and everyone else should mind their own business. what i want to address here is how this 'sexual liberation', often interchanged with 'sex positivity', can actually only liberate one group of sexually active people, while oppressing the other.

'sex positivity' is often presented as the opposite of the 'old-fashioned' sex-after-marriage, if-you-have-more-than-one-partner-it's-too-much idea. somehow, it has transformed into an ideology which only embraces one attitude towards sex; that is the promiscuous, care-free, i-do-it-for-the-pleasure, no-strings-attached idea. while i cannot stress that the action (= flamboyant sex life) is completely ok, the attitude (= 'this is the right way to approach sex') is wrong. first of all, it completely forgets about the fact that there are people who are demi-/asexual, suffer from past trauma/gender dysphoria/body conditions (e.g. vaginismus) etc. which makes it difficult for them to have sex and simply people who wish to be in long-term monogamous sex relationship based on a bit more than just bodily attraction; and that all these approaches to sex are completely legit and should be embraced too. unfortunately, this isn't really happening in real life; and people who do not wish to engage in the promiscuity are humiliated for being 'too prude', 'judgemental' and what not. this creates a funny contrast: those who have been shamed for being promiscuous now shame those who aren't like that, which, in the end, leads nowhere near liberation as it simply creates another way of oppression. 

we all know that many of our acts are fuelled by the need to be approved and liked by the society, and in many cases, we might adjust our behaviour to 'fit in'. there are many people who present this way of 'sex positivity' as the 'new normal' and openly voice an opinion that if you're not into that, you're boring/weird/not cool (side note – these people are also called assholes), which creates a very strong social pressure and can trick people into doing something they don't like/want to just to follow the norm. this is a very harmful way of manipulation – no one should ever make you do things by belittling your personality and own opinions.

simply put, there is no right or wrong attitude towards having sex; and sex positivity should embrace all those diverse ways people approach their own sex lives. we should not pressure anyone into any specific attitude towards having sex, because sexuality, same as gender, is different for each and every one, and all is valid when it comes to that.

make sure to check out this great comic which perfectly sums up what i just wrote!

12/08/2016

LET'S DANCE | yo! sissy 16

Yo! Sissy is a queer music festival in Berlin (organized by two of the biggest sweethearts Pansy & Scout), where i got the chance to help out this year. me and my soul sister Padla did artist care for pretty much all the artists there, which was, albeit stressful and exhausting, definitely one of the best experiences of my whole life. even though i only got to see four full (kinda) gigs (Mykki Blanco, Christeene, Fritz Helder, and Le1f) and we came home at 9 AM on Sunday, i had so much fun nevertheless, and, i mean, i got to meet all of these cool people listed above, right? (and they were all supernice and sweet, i'm telling you!)

it was all about glitter, sweat & queer love.
Yo! Sissy 4ever 

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Sunday evening sadness
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took this as a souvenir
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Fritz Helder | Pansy
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Sunday morning
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Le1f
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'fuck the patriarchy'
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Sunday 7 AM
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Le1f
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creepin' on ya
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backstage window talks
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Lauren Flax x Josh Caffe 8 AM impro set
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kinda lost it towards the morning .')